An Open Letter to Sam Pepper

lacigreen:

Hi Sam!

Thanks for taking the time to read this letter.  As fellow YouTubers, we have much respect for others who put so much hard work into building their channel.  It’s not easy, and you should be proud!  That said, we’ve noticed that in your success, there has been a lack of respect in return…namely, for women and girls.

You may have noticed that your latest video “Fake Hand Ass Pinch Prank” has garnered considerable negative attention.  In this video, you sexually violate a number of unsuspecting women on the street, many of whom are visibly confused and upset at being touched by you without permission.  One woman even says “I don’t like that!” while you proceed to laugh and touch her more.  In “How to Make Out with Strangers”, made a year ago, you pressure women on camera to make out with you - again, many of whom are visibly uncool with it.  Confused and caught off guard, they painfully follow through with your requests, clearly uncomfortable.  In “How to Pick Up Girls with a Lasso”, you physically restrain women on the street with lassos - many of whom look alarmed to be restrained by a stranger on the street.

You’d probably be alarmed too, wouldn’t you?  Imagine someone on the street comes up and rubs their hand on your bottom, or a girl walks up to you with a camera and forces her mouth onto yours while you’re trying to figure out what’s going on.  Imagine walking down the alley alone, when a guy much larger than you physically restrains you with rope and pulls you toward him.  You probably wouldn’t like it, right?

People don’t like to be violated and they don’t like to see their friends and girlfriends be violated either (hence the group of men that tried to beat you up in the lasso video).  And yet, history suggests that perhaps you find this humorous.  It is very disturbing that we live in a world where the violation of women and girls’ bodies is not only funny, but profitable, and can garner considerable notoriety and views on YouTube.

We are deeply disturbed by this trend and would like to ask you, from one creator to another, to please stop.  Please stop violating women and making them uncomfortable on the street for views.  Please stop physically restraining them and pressuring them to be sexual when they are uncomfortable.  Please show some respect for women’s right to their own bodies.  While it may seem like harmless fun, a simple prank, or a “social experiment”, these videos encourage millions of young men and women to see this violation as a normal way to interact with women.  1 in 6 young women (real life ones, just like the ones in your video) are sexually assaulted, and sadly, videos like these will only further increase those numbers.

We realize that people make mistakes, and that sometimes it’s hard to see the ripple effect of one’s actions.  We really hope that you will take a step back and consider the power you have to be someone who makes the world a better place.  It’s not too late to make a change!  We invite you to join us in ending widespread bodily violation that takes place in so many forms all around in the world.

Thanks so much.

Laci GreenMeghan TonjesTyler OakleyTomSkaViHartALBRoss EverettMatt LiebermanMeg TurneyTom FlynnTyrannosaurus LexArielle ScarcellaDan at NerdCubedRachel WhitehurstHannah Witton, Jefferson Bethke, MusicalBethan, Kaleb Nation, Chris Thompson, Michael Buckley, Jared Oban, Liam Dryden, Sanne Vliegenthart, Bryarly Bishop, Nicola Foti, Chescaleigh, Grace Helbig, Wheezy Waiter, Morgan Paige, Nathan Z., MumboJumbo, Miles Jai, Adorian Deck, Alli Speed, Matthew Santoro, Jaclyn Glenn, Hank Green, Rosianna Rojas, Grayson, Taryn Southern, Carrie Hope Fletcher, Adam Hattan, Drew Monson, Josh Sundquist, Mamrie Hart, Strawburry17, Catie Wayne

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Co-signed, Dani & Shannon, Real Talk Sex Advice

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arsenikcatnipples asked:

I recently checked out your twitter account but it seems to be desolate. Why is that? Do you guys not advertise it much?

real talk sex advice Answer:

We talked about it when we first started it a year or so ago but we didn’t get a bunch of followers and our initial attempts at engagement on that platform fell kind of flat. We’re both pretty busy and keeping social media updated with relevant content is a full time job. (It is actually my real full time job, just unfortunately I do that for clients and not my own stuff.) 

If people are into it, I can make more of an effort to post there and on our Facebook page. Our twitter handle is @realtalksex for anyone else who is interested. 

Let us know who you are on Twitter and we’ll follow you back! 

-Dani

arsenikcatnipples

Anonymous asked:

Dani, it's me again um? I don't know how to put it (ex-self harming virgin) But today my best friend got 'cheated' on (long story) I wasn't shouting and the cheater I was talking to him(in a very angry tone) and my boyfriend was there and didn't do anything. After 10-15 minutes he came over to me and was on his phone, he had a smirk on his face and I said "if you have something to say then say it! If you don't then just f**** off you c*nt" I said it because I was scared he was ending it...

real talk sex advice Answer:

Okay. I’d like to help but I’m not really clear on what you’re asking. Can you give me more information or ask specific question I can help with? 

I’m sorry this was upsetting to you and I hope you are okay. 

-Dani

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Sex isn't supposed to be painful? It really hurts for me. I'm 17 and have been sexually active since I was 14. It's always hurt, but I know it's not because I've been tense or anxious, and there's always been a fair amount of foreplay???

real talk sex advice Answer:

It could be that you are one of the many people who does not produce enough natural lubricant, which can cause extensive soreness.

I feel like a broken record today with how many times I’ve suggested using lube, but…you know…. try using lube to see if that helps.

Sex absolutely shouldn’t be painful.

xoxo, Shannon

Anonymous asked:

Should one douche the anus before anal? Does poop get on the penis?

real talk sex advice Answer:

It’s entirely up to you if you wish to douche the anus (otherwise known as get an enema) before anal sex. There will be a small amount of fecal matter that ends up on the penetrating item otherwise.

You can lessen the amount of fecal matter involved without douching by making sure to poo 2-4 hours before having anal sex, and not participating in anal sex when you are constipated, have stomach issues leading to loose stools, or just feel less than awesome in the digestive tract overall.

Listen to your body. and if you’re cool with using an at home enema kit, then by all means give yourself a squeaky clean booty inside and out!

xoxo, Shannon

Anonymous asked:

Hi, ladies! I feel like you've been receiving a lot of crap lately and I wanted to let you know that I really appreciate you and your blog. It's very educational and I love reading it. You all are the only people that make my husband and I feel confident about using bc pills and condoms. Everyone else thinks we're weird/crazy but it gives us great peace of mind!! Thank you for leading the condom crusade!!!:)

real talk sex advice Answer:

VIVA LA CONDOM CRUSADE! 

Thanks for the kind words and thank YOU for being safe and taking your reproductive health into your own hands. 

-Dani

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

So I've been with this guy for about one year. I got the courage to have sex but in the last couple months. Anytime we're both turned on after some foreplay. I feel I'm not lubricated enough. I think I am but idk. Cause anytime my guy tries to insert his penis into my vagina it won't let me. Idk if it's cause of that or he has to push harder or keep tryin. "We do wear protection. Plus I'm a virgin he's not. So far we've had no luck in actual sex. Idk what we could do?

real talk sex advice Answer:

Luuuuuuube.

Seriously, the easiest and quickest test to see if it’s just due to wetness is to get yourself a small bottle of good quality lube (we recommend Sliquid, we make hissing angry noises at Astroglide and KY), apply it liberally to his penis and your vaginal opening, and see if the sex is easier to work out.

Also, try a few different angles, it could be that the position you’re trying isn’t going to work for you, and a new position will.

xoxo, Shannon

Anonymous asked:

I'm ttc and most of the sperm got out by mistake because he forgot not to pull out but his sperm did get in my opening of my vag and i went into the bathroom to push it in and still haven't peed . I'm on clomid and ovulating. Is there a chance? :)

real talk sex advice Answer:

Although this isn’t our standard “am I pregnant?” question, we still can’t answer this and it’s a conversation you need to have with your doctor (ideally and logically it would be the doctor that prescribed you the Clomid).

-Shannon

Anonymous asked:

Hello! I was curious to know if you recommend wearing condoms during anal? My boyfriend and I have discussed it for a while and we're both willing to try anal at some point in the near future.

real talk sex advice Answer:

YES!

A million times yes.

Anal sex is more prone to causing small tears in the walls of the anus (since the booty doesn’t self lubricate), which can make it easier to transmit diseases.

Also, there is usually small amount of fecal matter that is still in the anal cavity during sex (unless you’re really good at self enemas), and poo on the dick is pretty low on most people’s lists of things that are awesome.

ALSO also, if/when you decide to go from anal sex to vaginal sex or oral, taking off the anal sex condom and putting on a new condom for the second activity is SUPER important for prevention of disease transmission.

Final note, any time we talk about anal sex, I always have to bring up lube, find a good silicone based lube (silicone lube lasts longer than water based and is ideal for anal sex), apply the lube to your ass AND your partner’s penis, and then keep applying more until that “hurts so good” feeling turns into “SO GOOOOOD!!!”

xoxo, Shannon