Anonymous asked: the anon that said guys don't like going down on girls cus of the smell??? your vag or his peen shouldn't have a smell.. i always do a finger check cus a smell could mean a problem. the outer vagina (especially if you have a fat cat) could get sweaty sometimes and have a odor but make sure you carry baby wipes in your female care pack, that should be inside your purse or car for emergencies. lol idk that's just my advice.
Yeah, actually, no. Vaginas do smell. They shouldn’t have a strong or fishy odor because THAT could be cause for concern. But vaginas smell. Penii smell.
BODIES SMELL. They’re supposed to. In fact, the Kama Sutra has several sex positions that are especially designed to take in the natural aroma of the human body. Because how a person smells can be highly erotic. Bodies are supposed to smell. We have to banish this notion that our bodies are supposed to be supernaturally perfect; void of hair, scent or texture. Bodies have hair, bodies have dimples and stretch marks and scars and make sounds and expel gas and air and smell of damp Earth or hard work. These things are okay. These things are normal.
Also, never ever ever ever again do I want to see the phrase “fat cat” in reference to a beautiful, magical lady garden.
Baby wipes are great. Baby wipes right before someone goes down on you? Not so great. Who wants to put their mouth on a vagina that tastes like chemicals and baby powder?
Yes, be clean and take care of your parts, but you don’t need to smell like a bed of fucking roses. THAT is unnatural as shit.
Anonymous asked: I know that one of the main reasons most guys don't like giving girls oral is because of the smell. What should I tell my boyfriend if this is also his reason? I give him bj's all the time. Is that fair?
Do you want to go down on him? Are you only going down on him in order to make him feel obligated to reciprocate? Because you should only be doing things that you want to do because you want to do them, not out of obligation or intent to make someone return the favor.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to go down on you, he’s allowed to not want to. He’s allowed to not want to for any reason whatsoever. Smell, no smell, doesn’t matter. You don’t convince someone to perform a sex act they don’t want to do.
Is it fair that you go down on him and he doesn’t for you? Yes. Because each sex act is it’s own self contained event and one does not beget the other.
littlecataloga asked: hey guys! just to tell you that i just found your blog and i think it's super cool that you take (i guess a lot) of your time to answer everyone's questions. keep on the good work making people feel less (/not anymore) uncomfortable about sex topics. larga vida a la vida sexual activa, sana y feliz! <3
This was a lovely bit of fan mail first thing this morning. Makes us all warm and fuzzy.
muffin-sangria asked: The part of the brain the processes sensations in the feet is right next to the part that processes sensations in the genitals. Some people theorize that foot fetishes are cause then the wires of those two parts of the brain get crossed and that's why foot fetishes are so common.
Hmm. This is interesting. I know that there are pressure points in the feet that can cause arousal as well and that the nervous system is a tricky bitch in general.
I’m not sure I buy the “wires crossed” theory so much though. But it’s definitely an interesting hypothesis! Thanks for sharing!
Anonymous asked: Hello. I'm a little confused. Does pre-cum have sperm in it? Or does it only contain sperm from previous ejaculations?
It does have sperm in it, it’s not “\leftover”\ sperm, or indeed any different than the sperm that are included in ejaculate, however the volume of semen in pre-cum is much lower than it is in ejaculate. MUCH lower. But there’s still a few swimmers in there.
Anonymous asked: This may seem like a stupid question, but how do you know when you're getting "wet"? I'll be sitting at my desk, reading some really erotic, and when I put my hand down my pants and I'm completely soaked, but I don't necessarily feel turned on...? It's difficult to explain.
"Getting wet" just refers to your body lubricating your vagina. Some people have to be really turned on to produce vaginal lubricant, some can get very wet really easily. So, any time you can feel wetness, you are "wet".
Does what it says on the box.
Anonymous asked: Is it normal for my vagina to be a little itchy after sex.
Different vaginas react differently to sex, mild itchiness can happen and isn’t abnormal, but is probably something you want to talk to your gyno about to make sure it’s not a sign of something more serious.
Anonymous asked: Hey lovelies! I adore this blog, but I need some relationship advice... I'm currently in a relationship with a boy I'm not attracted to, and he just told me he loves me (third time we've tried dating each other) and recently another friend of mine who moved away also confessed his 'love' to me, I don't know whether to believe him or think he just wants to get in my pants (we're all about 16) and I'm stuck and freaked out, can you help me think this through?
Alright sugar plum,
First things first. If you’re not attracted to someone you shouldn’t be dating them. I’m sure he’s a great guy, and I’m happy you are loved, but it’s not fair to him or to you to date someone if the feelings just aren’t there on your end.
Secondly, dudebro who is far away should probably have said something while you guys were in the same place, or at least when you were single. If he’s not someone you’re attracted to, then don’t even worry about it, live your life, go forth and find hot people to kiss. If he IS someone you’re attracted to, talk to him about it, see if long distance can work, and go from there.
But SERIOUSLY, break up with the guy you’re not attracted to first, for the love of all that is good.
Anonymous asked: Speaking if foot fetishes, I was talking to a guy at a house party and he said he gave really good foot massages so I let him, he then sniffed and kissed my foot. I said that I didn't like it and I was sorry. He keeps texting me that his hands
Foot pt 2 still smell like my feet and he loves them and that I’m a Bitch for saying that I wasn’t into it. I didn’t make fun of him, it was just crossing a line for me, he didn’t ask to do that. Do you think I’m being too rude about it ?
Nope. Not rude at all. Anytime someone does something that makes you uncomfortable and you let them know and then they continue to cross that boundary: no bueno, dude.
You can safely tell that guy to fuck RIGHT off and to never call you again. If he continues to text you, block his number.
There’s nothing wrong with a fetish, there is something wrong with forcing that fetish on to someone else who is not into it.
Anonymous asked: Any idea why foot fetishes/kinks are so common? it's so weird...
We do not call other people’s fetish or kink weird. We do not cast judgement on the things that consenting adults do to get themselves off.
I have no idea why foot fetishism is so common. Nor do I know why BDSM or role playing is common. They’re not things I’m personally into, but I know plenty of people who are and it says nothing about them as a person other than this is how they like to get off.
They could equally cast aspersions about my preferred method of sexy times, but I’d like to think that they wouldn’t. Because honestly anything that brings joy and doesn’t harm another person is none of my fucking business.