1. Tell him EXACTLY what you just told us. “I’m having dryness issues due to the new birth control, I want to enjoy myself like I used to with you and I would like to try using lube the next time we have sex.”

    Dani and I are firm believers that if you can have sex with someone, you should also be able to TALK about sex with them.

    Lube is not just for adventurous couples. Lube is for anyone who wants to be more slippery. EVERYONE could benefit from being more slippery from time to time.

    xoxo, Shannon

  2. If you are sexually frustrated during the week there is no reason to not help yourself out. Masturbation is a safe and awesome way to get those sexual urges worked through without needing anyone else.

    You CAN technically masturbate so frequently that it will be harder to respond to a partner’s touch, but masturbating a couple times a week isn’t gonna do it.

    Get your self love on, friend!

    xoxo, Shannon

  3. You are absolutely correct that mutual masturbation has just about the lowest chance of pregnancy of anything ever. HOWEVER, you can provide an extra layer of protection for all activities (this protection includes protection from STD’s as well, which while transmission via mutual masturbation is unlikely, it can still happen) by having your boyfriend wear a condom during mutual masturbation, and as well your boyfriend could wear a latex (or latex free nitrile) glove while masturbating you.

    Also, make sure that even when it get’s hot and heavy, you are not participating in any genital to genital contact, sometimes in the heat of the moment a mutual masturbation session will turn into something more, and it’s good to be prepared and protected if that happens. Make sure to wash hands afterwards, and to clean up after yourselves, no one wants to snuggle in a wet spot…

    xoxo, Shannon

  4. Yup. Wash your hands before and after, and try to keep those painted nails short.

    xoxo, Shannon

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  6. Yes you absolutely can still get an STD even if ejaculate doesn’t come into contact with your mouth.

    Other than a barrier method (condom, dental dam etc.) there is no way to keep transmission of an STD from happening during oral sex.

    It’s like the “5 second rule” (which does not exist), there’s no safe amount of time for your mouth to be in contact with someone’s genitals before the STD comes over. Contact = possibility of transmission, regardless of how long you where in contact.

    Also, please note that fresh breath and pearly white teeth are very nice things to have, but oral care products will not kill an STD.

    xoxo, Shannon

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  9. A lot of people with vaginae will feel a strong urge to pee before a vaginal orgasm, that feeling doesn’t happen so much when it’s a clitoral orgasm though, so the professor was correct in regards to one type of orgasm.

    xoxo, Shannon

  10. Absolutely! And thank you so much for realizing that you guys both remaining std free is important enough to change up your habits and be even safer!

    xoxo, Shannon

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