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Anonymous asked:

I've heard that drinking alcohol can make a guy's cum have a burning sensation/taste when in your mouth. Does that happen after just a couple drinks, or only if the guy is drunk? Will the effect go away once the drinks are processed through his system? And do these things vary from guy to guy?

real talk sex advice Answer:

From my personal experience in regards to ingesting booze infused cum, it’s not necessary a “this guy who has never had a drink before had one shot and now his cum tastes of burning” kinda thing. It’s more of a “This person drinks regularly and as a result, their cum permanently tastes like burning and death.”

The current state of inebriation doesn’t have much to do with it, it’s more about the overall lifestyle. The same way a diet rich in pineapple is regularly rumored to make cum taste sweeter (and I’ve known people who swear it’s true), a person who’s diet regularly includes alcohol is more likely to have cum that reflects that and tastes…. well, really REALLY bad.

This is not an “always” rule, it’s just one person’s observation after lots of experimentation with a variety of partners who both drank and did not drink. It may not hold true for you, it may be if you are sleeping with people under the age of 20 who haven’t fully immersed themselves in a booze soaked lifestyle, that even if they drink, their bodies aren’t producing vile tasting cum yet.

I will tell you this though, if you encounter cum that tastes like burning, and they have been drinking recently, their sobriety the next day doesn’t by any means mean that their cum will not taste like burning anymore.

xoxo, Shannon

Anonymous asked:

I have a crush on this guy that I've been friends with for about 10 years& recently this year we've been getting a little intimate I confided in my best friend about this crush and she seemed like I shouldn't go for it. I know that her and him are really good friends and I know he tells her things, but she acts like she doesn't know anything. I'm not asking her to tell me his secrets I just want to know if I should seriously get crush on him or move on. What do you think I should do? Ur the best

real talk sex advice Answer:

I often tell people that the one piece of advice I would give to my younger self is “Say it.”

Seriously, there is so much of my past that could have been fixed or at least given closure just by saying something to the person in question.

What happens if you don’t say anything? do you spend ANOTHER 10 years crushing on the guy and not knowing? That sounds horrible!

Say something, even if the outcome isn’t what you want, it’s better to know.

xoxo, Shannon

Anonymous asked:

So I was scrolling through my Dash and I saw a gif of a guy with a big dick rolling on a condom. Underneath were comments like 'that's just asking for intestinal damage' and 'I consider guys like this handicapped' and 'no one is ever gonna enjoy sex with this guy' and it made me so furious. Like there is nothing wrong with that guy. People are so insensitive. I know guys with small dicks get insulted I just never thought the reverse would be true too.

real talk sex advice Answer:

Here’s the thing about people making commentary about another person’s body: It’s not okay.

Like, regardless of the type of commentary being provided, and regardless of the societal judgments that are regularly enacted on certain physical features (you mentioned people with smaller penii, and things like fat folks and small breasts end up in this category too), it’s not okay!

A person’s body is their own, and no one else has anything useful to say about it, because it’s not theirs.

That means no more thinking we have a super important thing to say when we decide to comment on the bigness or smallness of another persons penis (ESPECIALLY when we decide to make a judgement call about the rest of that person’s life based on their dick size).

That also means no more thinking that because someone is fatter than you, or thinner than you, that they need to know what you think about their body. Nor does it mean that you know anything about them in regards tot eh rest of their life, based just on seeing the size that they are. We have to stop this stuff.

So yes, in short: people are insensitive, the internet let’s people be insensitive on a grand scale towards a number of people they wouldn’t normally have access to, and sometimes people get a little drunk on that anonymous or NEAR anonymous power. It’s why internet trolls exist, it’s why there’s an option to turn off anon messages, some people do not use this power for good.

What you can do (and what we all can do) is make a conscious effort to not add to that judgement and insensitivity. Just straight up don’t participate in that shit.

xoxo, Shannon

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Anonymous asked:

1/2 I'm bi and I recently found out that my boyfriend outed me to his family and family friends and talked in context about "how lucky he is that there's a possibility of a threesome" with them and I'm not ashamed of my sexuality at all but it

real talk sex advice Answer:

2/2 just makes me a little uncomfortable that people I’ve never met know this stuff about me and I wasn’t the one to tell them. How can I tell my boyfriend to stop outing me and also to stop talking about the threesome thing?

There is an unfortunate thing that happens to bi people, where their sexuality is either ignored (“bi people don’t really exist, you’re just pretending for attention or because you’re not ready to come out as gay.” is a thing I hear a lot in reference to bi people.) or fetishized. 

It sounds like the latter is what is happening here. First of all, outing ANYONE is super fucked up. Your sexuality is yours to disclose to people when you feel ready. Second of all, outing you in order to brag about being able to have a threesome is just straight up gross. (First of all, who talks to their family about that stuff? Seriously?) It’s turning you not into his partner, but instead into an opportunity for some sexual exploit. That’s not okay. 

And that’s how I’d talk to him about it. What he’s doing is dehumanizing, exploitative and wildly inappropriate. You are not The Bisexual Unicorn of Threesomes. You’re his partner. You’re his partner first and foremost and if he can’t respect that you have boundaries, he needs to shove off. 

Just straight up tell him to stop. That it makes you feel gross. It’s not okay. It’s invasive and rude. He doesn’t have the right to out you (or anyone else) to anyone. When you’re ready to talk about your sexuality, you will be the one to do it. And it won’t be in the context of some potential threesome. 

Basically, he sounds like a world class jerk who doesn’t understand the stigma attached to bisexuality or how what he’s doing is playing into really fucked up stereotypes about bi people. 

-Dani

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Anonymous asked:

Do you think it's rude or disrespectful to have sex in a dorm? My boyfriend's roommate is going to be gone this weekend, but he says the "walls are thin" and people might hear something. I thought sex on campus would be no big deal but he's acting like the FBI is going to swoop down on us...

real talk sex advice Answer:

I don’t think it’s disrespectful, but I do think that if it makes your partner uncomfortable you should honor that. 

-Dani

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Anonymous asked:

I had a doctors appointment and my doctor told me that it was better to wait to have sex until marriage. Is it okay for them to give their opinions like that? The way she said it made her seem biased. I thought they were supposed to tell people what their opinions on sex are. It just made me feel like she will do a shitty job helping me get birth control when I need it because of her views on it. She didnt seem supportive at all. She seemed against the idea.

real talk sex advice Answer:

Are they allowed to give opinions? Sure. 

Should they? Is it professional? Hell no. 

And you’re absolutely right to not feel comfortable with that doctor and I would strongly encourage you to find a doctor that won’t make you feel unsupported. 

-Dani

Anonymous asked:

I don't mean to offend anyone... But are you two gay?

real talk sex advice Answer:

1. The answer you seek can be found in our archives. Use the search function, young padawan. 

2. Why would that be offensive. Is it offensive to be gay?

3. It’s not actually any of your business. But you can still refer back to #1. 

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